Comments for The Map-Maker's Mother http://lunday.com/mapmaker Parenting in uncharted territory Tue, 07 Sep 2010 17:40:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 Comment on Taking the temperature by Meredith Resnick http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133&cpage=1#comment-95 Meredith Resnick Sun, 18 Oct 2009 01:03:14 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133#comment-95 You have kept putting one foot in front of the other and taking action in an intentional way - this is the most incredible and powerful thing. As an outsider looking in, I see progress - a lot. You have kept putting one foot in front of the other and taking action in an intentional way - this is the most incredible and powerful thing. As an outsider looking in, I see progress - a lot.

]]> Comment on Taking the temperature by Elizabeth http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133&cpage=1#comment-90 Elizabeth Wed, 23 Sep 2009 17:24:18 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133#comment-90 Nancy, thank you so much for reading and commenting. You're right--all we can do is love these kids and try to give them the tools they need to eventually learn how to make friends. It sounds like you have quite a full house! How wonderful that your grandson has that extended family around him to love and support him. Nancy, thank you so much for reading and commenting. You’re right–all we can do is love these kids and try to give them the tools they need to eventually learn how to make friends.

It sounds like you have quite a full house! How wonderful that your grandson has that extended family around him to love and support him.

]]> Comment on Taking the temperature by Nancy Waddell http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133&cpage=1#comment-89 Nancy Waddell Wed, 23 Sep 2009 15:44:14 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=133#comment-89 I am the grandmother of an eight year old boy who has AS and ADD. I have been following your blog from the beginning. MapKid reminds me a lot of our boy. He likes maps and takes karata. He does not go into rages as much but is a little boy who lives in his own world. The heartbreak these kids go through seems sometimes to hurt the adults more than the kids. Last May our guy brought a cd home from school. It was so nice of the teacher to make pictures of activities through the year and send them home. Our guy was the one who was just outside the edge of the action. The only pictures of somebody touching him was when I was there and had my arms around him. We were looking at them together and came to the Christmas party. He said in a no nonsense voice, "I was sad in that one. Nobody likes me". I still want to cry but all you can do is say I like you and I love you. Its not the same. An 8 year old boys best friend should not be his grandmother. Noise does not bother him but that could be because our house gets noisy. We live in a 3 generation household composed of him, his mom an dad, 2 sisters, grandparents, and a uncle plus 3 cats. I am the grandmother of an eight year old boy who has AS and ADD. I have been following your blog from the beginning. MapKid reminds me a lot of our boy. He likes maps and takes karata. He does not go into rages as much but is a little boy who lives in his own world. The heartbreak these kids go through seems sometimes to hurt the adults more than the kids. Last May our guy brought a cd home from school. It was so nice of the teacher to make pictures of activities through the year and send them home. Our guy was the one who was just outside the edge of the action. The only pictures of somebody touching him was when I was there and had my arms around him. We were looking at them together and came to the Christmas party. He said in a no nonsense voice, “I was sad in that one. Nobody likes me”. I still want to cry but all you can do is say I like you and I love you. Its not the same. An 8 year old boys best friend should not be his grandmother. Noise does not bother him but that could be because our house gets noisy. We live in a 3 generation household composed of him, his mom an dad, 2 sisters, grandparents, and a uncle plus 3 cats.

]]> Comment on Walking away by The Map-Maker’s Mother » Taking the temperature http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=53&cpage=1#comment-88 The Map-Maker’s Mother » Taking the temperature Tue, 22 Sep 2009 17:05:16 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=53#comment-88 [...] skepticism, but after our first session on Friday I received more feedback than I did in six weeks at that other place. I know it’s not a panacea, but they’re doing the things that need to be [...] [...] skepticism, but after our first session on Friday I received more feedback than I did in six weeks at that other place. I know it’s not a panacea, but they’re doing the things that need to be [...]

]]> Comment on Inexplicable by Lorri http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129&cpage=1#comment-87 Lorri Sun, 20 Sep 2009 04:37:22 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129#comment-87 Sometimes I read your blog and I feel like we are living the same life. Sometimes I read your blog and I feel like we are living the same life.

]]> Comment on Inexplicable by Elizabeth http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129&cpage=1#comment-85 Elizabeth Wed, 16 Sep 2009 01:11:18 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129#comment-85 Actually, I find that very reassuring! Actually, I find that very reassuring!

]]> Comment on Inexplicable by Licks the Cat http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129&cpage=1#comment-84 Licks the Cat Tue, 15 Sep 2009 15:44:06 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=129#comment-84 I'm glad you've recovered from your slump. I don't know if it will make you feel better or worse, but we've had to make a "no licking the cat" rule, also. :) I’m glad you’ve recovered from your slump. I don’t know if it will make you feel better or worse, but we’ve had to make a “no licking the cat” rule, also. :)

]]> Comment on Walking away by sandra407 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=53&cpage=1#comment-83 sandra407 Wed, 09 Sep 2009 16:06:21 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=53#comment-83 Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post... nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R. Hi! I was surfing and found your blog post… nice! I love your blog. :) Cheers! Sandra. R.

]]> Comment on Assessing the essence of “OK-ness” by elunday http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-79 elunday Thu, 03 Sep 2009 04:19:10 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=121#comment-79 Funny you should mention talking about your own mess-ups. Just today I screwed up the date of a doctor's appointment for my son. I told him I had made a mistake, we would go to the doctor tomorrow, and added, "It's a bummer, but everyone makes mistakes." He glared at me and said, "Well, you do, but I don't!" So that's a concept we need to, er, work on. But I agree wholeheartedly with your main point, that we need to show kids--all kids, but these kids in particular--that it's not necessary to hide imperfection. (And thanks for reading! And commenting!) Funny you should mention talking about your own mess-ups. Just today I screwed up the date of a doctor’s appointment for my son. I told him I had made a mistake, we would go to the doctor tomorrow, and added, “It’s a bummer, but everyone makes mistakes.”

He glared at me and said, “Well, you do, but I don’t!”

So that’s a concept we need to, er, work on.

But I agree wholeheartedly with your main point, that we need to show kids–all kids, but these kids in particular–that it’s not necessary to hide imperfection.

(And thanks for reading! And commenting!)

]]> Comment on Assessing the essence of “OK-ness” by Jennifer Haupt http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=121&cpage=1#comment-78 Jennifer Haupt Wed, 02 Sep 2009 21:20:59 +0000 http://lunday.com/mapmaker/?p=121#comment-78 OK-ness... I love that, Elizabeth! I think coming to terms with our own OK-ness is a great role model for our children - especially the ones who struggle w/society telling them they are not OK. My 19-year-old son has ADD and I'm just now (better late than never) realizing that I need to teach him it's an OK part of him--not something he has to hide. One way I do this is by telling him about my mess-ups in a light, gentle way instead of a harsh, judging way. OK-ness… I love that, Elizabeth! I think coming to terms with our own OK-ness is a great role model for our children - especially the ones who struggle w/society telling them they are not OK. My 19-year-old son has ADD and I’m just now (better late than never) realizing that I need to teach him it’s an OK part of him–not something he has to hide. One way I do this is by telling him about my mess-ups in a light, gentle way instead of a harsh, judging way.

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